I've
been sitting here for several hours pondering things because of the
usual stresses that come along relating to people and the the things
they do or do not do for you or to you. “You” is currently
generic in nature when writing about what I'm about to write about in
this blog.
I've
been in Greenland for a tiny bit over a year now and I have to say
that peoples way of life here varies and is so different than how
people are in my own country. (USA)
Over
the half my life has tested my faith in people and at some point my
faith I guess died or ended up on the back burner because I grew
tired of always being treated like crap. I came from a rough
upbringing that no child should ever have to experience and then I
turned right around and married a man who was just like the
upbringing I had been in only at the time I didn't realize it or I
didn't see it or was to stupid to understand all the bad behaviors
were going to lead me into a twenty one year marriage of mostly
misery.
I
kept thinking and hoping and believing that one day that would all
change and things would be good for both me and the beautiful
children that came from this first marriage but alas that never
materialized. I am only writing about this part to lay groundwork to
hopefully shed some light on some of the next things I will write
about in this not so great blog.
I
think I'm a fairly easy person to get along with and I'd do about
anything for anybody especially my kids and my friends. And of course
now my new husband whom I love and adore. This blog has nothing to do
with him or my children. It's about other people in general. Anyway
lets trudge on with this blog and the writing of it. Over the years
I grew up with the understanding that nobody ever did anything for
anyone else without expecting some return from it which meant right
then and there. So anytime I was invited anywhere it was expected
that I help with fuel or food or whatever. Of course when I did the
inviting of those same people to go do things with me, well I never
asked anything because I feel much differently about this whole idea.
See
I believe that when I want somebody to come and do something for me I
shouldn't expect them to help pay for it when I did the inviting or
whatever. Of course I didn't always invite on outings that required a
lot of money due to my limited resources but when it came to cooking
dinner or whatever, they never had to bring a thing unless they
really insisted. It's just that I think that it never hurts anyone to
do things for their fellow being or family or friends. It makes us
better people when we do things for others. I believe that God
rewards those that do good things for others too. Maybe these
beliefs are outdated in this day and age. I just don't know.
Out
of all the friends I have encountered along with family members (not
my children or new husband) in the United States there is only one
person who has never asked for anything in return when she did the
inviting or did things for you or wanted to come and do something
nice for you. I have gained a lifelong friendship with “M” and
she would be a perfect description of what a good friend is meant to
be like. Always there when you need her, does things because she
wants to, not because she wants something in return or even expects
it. Even when you offer its most of the time no, no need or
something like that. She is truly a blessing to all of those who are
lucky enough to be around her or even friends with her. I sure do
miss her too being separated by the big pond.
I
have no problems with helping out when going places and such but I am
beginning to think that most (not all) expect something when they do
something for you these days though. I just don't understand why
it's that way either.
Then
I come to this beautiful country “Greenland” and get to enjoy the
most amazing landscapes and scenery and get to learn about the local
ethnic customs and eat new foods and well just enjoy what it means to
be a Greenlandic. There has been several things I have learned about
the people here. Most of them always smile and don't seem to have a
care in the world or much stress in their lives. Most of them love
their country as well and love what nature puts in front of them too.
Most of them would do things for their fellow man, family and friends
without asking for anything in return or even expecting it. I am
having to learn that I don't have to do things for those that do
things for me here or bring things. It's not expected. What they do
expect I guess is for you to enjoy yourself and have a good time.
I
have made friends with a wonderful person and her family and they
have made me feel so welcome and a a part of them too. I get to go
sailing with them often and they always share with me new things, new
places and seem to give of themselves without reservation or
expectation of anything being given in return other then to have a
good time with them. I have grown quite fond of them in fact.
So
I'm at a loss here in a way. How is it that people in two different
worlds can be so different when it comes to just being human beings.
Has my country grown so crazy, and so busy that they have forgotten
what it means to enjoy what is around them? Have they forgotten how
good it is to give to one another and not expect somebody to pay them
back in some way? It seems like so many now are stressed in their
everyday lives. Now a days it's all about politics, money, fuel, and
whatever else that might be a huge discussion or interference in ones
life.
My
husband has been a wonderful influence in my life these days too.
He's always smiling and laughing and teasing and well affectionate
and loyal too. He never lets things weigh him down for more than a
few minutes and then he moves on and brushes it all off. I hope one
day I can manage to learn to do that too. It would be a wonderful
thing to learn to let things roll off me instead of bothering me.
The
only reason I even wrote this is because I get frustrated at times by
how people treat one another. It seems like society has become
greedy and no longer wants to do anything without some expectation of
something in return. Well that is my vent for the month. LOL I'll be
updating my blog with more fun stuff from the last two, no wait three
sailing trips. I still have to finish writing about them all and
post photographs as well. I hope you will take the time to read them
and view pics as well. I have posted photo's on here so that one can
at lest enjoy the pics despite the nature of this particular blog.
God
grant me the serenity to change the things I can and the patience to
ignore the ones I can't.
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